We completed our first homestudy in 2013, since then we have updated it two times. We are coming up on our THIRD update to our homestudy this next month. Over the past 3+ years, we have been tested for HIV, STDs, tuberculosis, and drugs. We have been finger printed and screened. Filled out mountains of paperwork. All of this, not once, but multiple times. Chuck and I have also completed many hours of training. Part of our lives has been essentially on hold… prayerfully waiting. First, there was our failed adoption in Uganda. And, now Ghana has essentially stopped processing international adoptions. It has been emotionally and financially draining.
Based on advice from our agency, we made the difficult decision this week to not update our homestudy for international adoption from Ghana. Our family will remain in the Ghana program, but our agency simply does not expect to have any referrals of children aged 0-8 years old in the foreseeable future. We submitted our dossier in March 2015 and the last referral was May 2015. We believe that God is in charge of the details and that He will continue to show Himself to us through this journey.
Our prayer still remains that someday we will be able to adopt a child that needs a family, but for now we feel like we have done everything we can do in regards to international adoption. We plan to continue fostering children from within our community and explore foster care adoption in states where there are waiting children. Over the past year, we have had four children in our home through foster care. A four year old girl for one day. A four year old boy for four months. We currently have a three year old girl who has been with us for three months, plus a nine year old girl who is with us only for a few weeks. Loving these children has been one of the biggest blessings in our adoption journey. Something we almost missed out on because it seemed "too scary.”
The first thing many people ask when they find out we do foster care is, “isn’t it hard to let them go?” Yes, yes… it really is. However, Jason Johnson said it perfectly…
"Yet, as we weigh in balance what we stand to lose against what they stand to gain, the answer is simple - not always easy to do - but simple to see as worth it in the end. We can't let the fear of loving a child who might leave deter us; we must let the fear of a child never knowing love drive us."
Please join us in praying for children that are waiting for their forever family. Blessings, Nicki